My 4 year old nephew is allergic to milk. He has been in daycare since he was an infant, and the daycare providers have always been very helpful and cautious when dealing with food for him. However, about 8 months ago, he started at a new daycare that is closer to home (for convenience). Despite lots of food allergy education and advocacy by his mom, the teacher and director don't seem to get it. They offered him candy at Halloween that wasn't labeled (luckily he knew enough to wait to ask mom before eating it), they use chocolate pudding for painting an Easter bunny, they purchase soap for the center that clearly states "Milk Protein" on the label (on the front of the bottle in big, bold letters). Today I hear that his teacher suggested that he be home schooled since avoiding milk is impossible. I'm speechless! It seems like they are not even willing to try!
My sister-in-law has been very patient with this staff and does her best to kindly educate them. Every child deserves an equal education, regardless of food allergies. What a stupid thing to discriminate against! My son has much more involved food issues, and we seem to manage just fine at school and with extra-curricular activities. It is not impossible to teach or involve a child with food allergies. You just have to be willing to learn and try.